When Single Men Have Affairs With Married Women

couples-2_1This is sort of Part II concerning single people having affairs with married people and why. Recently, I wrote about why single women have affairs with married men.  So today it’s the more rare circumstance — those few single men who have affairs with married women. And how the single male’s motivations and approach tends to be different than the single woman who is someone’s affair partner. Continue reading

Why Single Women Have Affairs with Married Men

easelly_visual-6-e1375100667674I won’t take credit for this. It’s a reprint from something I saw on ehow.com from author Dawn Sutton.  I found it doing research for someone based on their emailed question. While it’s hard to generalize about affairs and the people in them (it varies so much!!), I think what was written here sounded “right” to me.  And answers that question, “Why would some smart, attractive, single woman get involved with a married guy?”  I think a lot of Betrayeds have that question.  Continue reading

The Other Woman Explained

15f542c3cf3c159f9c463144731211adThese are not my words. A reader of mine sent me a link to a URL that some other man (I’m guessing someone in the UK, based on some of the wording and spelling) posted 4 years ago.  I found it to be humorous, but also full of a lot of truths. I could quibble here and there about some of his conclusions, and absolutes, but I thought it said a lot about the motivations of otherwise smart women to become mistresses. And the motivations of some married men to take them in their lives. And the motivations of some wives to turn a somewhat blind eye to what’s going on.  There were things in this article that definitely rang true to me.  I added in a few of my notes here and there. Continue reading

Letter to (or Assault Against?) the Other Woman

woman-reading-letterI am no fan of the cheater, despite what some of my readers think.  I’ve been very diligent not only in my opposition to affairs in general, but any attempts by active cheaters to justify themselves and their behavior.  If you are cheating, you have no justification, even if you have your ‘reasons’.  You are doing something that is a massive betrayal and deceit.  Frankly, some of you are pretty much self-indulgent, delusional, narcissistic twits.  I see blogs all of the time of current and former cheaters who absolutely don’t seem to have any remorse for having affairs.   I know not all of you are like this, even if Betrayed Spouses wish to paint you that way.  But some of you are.  Let’s face the facts:  Cheating is bad. There is no real way to justify it or sugar-coat it. Continue reading

“The Other Woman is not always a crazy, predatory monster”

Question from an ex “Other Woman”:

“Let it be known, that anyone who gets involved with a married man, is no picture of sanity. Low self-esteem? You betcha! Daddy issues? Absolutely! Prior abusive relationships? Bingo!  All stuff I’m currently working on……

But, It’s true, the OW is an emotional mess.  Granted some are crazier than others, but we all carry our own rocks.  Continue reading