Is it better to have the affair discovered or to get away with it and go back to your marriage?

Interesting question. Is it better to have ended the affair and return to your marriage, determined that you will make things better and that this will never happen again, or to have your affair uncovered and the bare truth laid out to your spouse?

When Your Affair Partner Threatens to Tell Your Spouse about the Affair

Reprinted article by Katie Lersch (http://surviving-the-affair.com/ )

The Person That I Am Cheating With Is Threatening To Tell My Spouse. What Now?

Should you tell your spouse of your affair after it’s over?

Interesting question was put to me by another blogger whose affair is over, but whose spouse does not know.  And that is:  Do I tell my spouse about the affair?

Well, what a hard question to answer and there is evidence on both sides.   I guess it comes down to this — it depends!  I saw opinions all over the place.  I have distilled several opinions here.