Determining Your Risk of Divorce

divorced-couple-001I wrote a blog last year on the “Four Horsemen of Marital Doom” — and I think it’s still sound, and it deals  with behaviors that lead couples to a higher risk of divorce.  But there is another aspect:  Risk factors that are socio-demographic and other circumstantial predictors of divorce. Continue reading


The Four Horseman of Marital Doom – Predictors of Divorce

12648772-angry-husband-and-wife-turning-their-back-on-each-otherI’m reprinting an article on a concept that is an incredibly accurate predictor of marriage/relationship doom.

The concept in short?   Relationships that aren’t given the right amount of positive energy are doomed to what the author, Dr. John Gottman, calls “The Four Horseman of the Apocalypse” in a relationship.  Eg, how we handle that conflict helps decide whether or not the relationship remains healthy or moves towards its end. The “Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse” are criticism, contempt, defensiveness, and stonewalling. Get them out of your relationship.  Continue reading