Interesting question. Is it better to have ended the affair and return to your marriage, determined that you will make things better and that this will never happen again, or to have your affair uncovered and the bare truth laid out to your spouse?
I get emails almost every day from readers all over the world — to praise my blog, to vent about their situations, but more often than not, to ask for my perspective and help in their personal situations related to infidelity. I often hear from spouses who have tried various approaches to get their husband or wife to end their affair. And yet, nothing has worked. Either the spouse has refused to end the affair, has begged for more time to make up their mind, or has continued to see the Affair Partner despite promises they would not, or moved out entirely and now lives with the Affair Partner. So they ask me, “What should I do to get my husband (or wife) to come back to the marriage?” Continue reading
I can’t tell you how many times I have read this on blogs, on message boards, or heard it in real life. People, whether married or single, who are in affairs, but don’t know how to end it. Continue reading
I’m posting this because this addiction – to the affair, to the affair partner – is something I went through and am now past. Seeing someone who turned out to be destructive, mean, and psychotic helped me get over them faster, but I still felt the “withdrawal” from the affair when I terminated it and went cold turkey. It was still a process.
I wrote this for some of you Waywards that I see on blogs, on message boards, asking, “Why oh WHY can’t I get over him/her so I can heal my marriage?” Continue reading
This post was generated by a number of things that I’ve been seeing on blogs and message boards. Waywards (former cheaters) lamenting about their ex-Affair Partner. Most of them stating that they are trying to make amends to their spouses (or in some cases, the spouses still don’t know about the affair) and recommitting themselves to their marriage, but still unable to “get over” their ex-Affair Partner. Continue reading