Another in a series of my interviews with cheaters, both current and former. This is an “Other Woman”, and a married one. Whose affair was discovered and is over. I think you’ll find her story compelling. This was a fairly brief, non-physical, but very intense affair. You can see how quickly feelings can escalate even when no physical contact at all is involved. And you will see what a huge mental price she has paid for her emotional dalliance. She now has to live with the guilt and because her Affair Partner’s wife knows, but has not (yet) ratted her out, she lives with the fear that at some point it will all be disclosed to her husband. Every time the phone rings, she probably jumps. Or worries whenever her husband approaches her without a smile on his face. This is the price she has paid. The “Sword of Damacles” will hang over her head for years.
She writes in a very from the heart sort of way. Raw and real. She pulls no punches. She does not justify her actions in any way. It’s worth a read. Judge if you must, but if you must, please do it silently. She’s put herself out there hopefully to help others avoid affairs.
I won’t take credit for this. It’s a reprint from something I saw on ehow.com from author Dawn Sutton. I found it doing research for someone based on their emailed question. While it’s hard to generalize about affairs and the people in them (it varies so much!!), I think what was written here sounded “right” to me. And answers that question, “Why would some smart, attractive, single woman get involved with a married guy?” I think a lot of Betrayeds have that question. Continue reading
These are not my words. A reader of mine sent me a link to a URL that some other man (I’m guessing someone in the UK, based on some of the wording and spelling) posted 4 years ago. I found it to be humorous, but also full of a lot of truths. I could quibble here and there about some of his conclusions, and absolutes, but I thought it said a lot about the motivations of otherwise smart women to become mistresses. And the motivations of some married men to take them in their lives. And the motivations of some wives to turn a somewhat blind eye to what’s going on. There were things in this article that definitely rang true to me. I added in a few of my notes here and there. Continue reading
I post very little about my affair or myself any longer. I wanted the blog to be not about me, but about the topic — to help others get out of infidelity, avoid it altogether or heal from it. So I say very little about my affair, my wife, my recovery or “her.” Its been more than 900 days since D-day and when I cut things off with “her”. My marriage has recovered well. We don’t talk about “it”. It’s very much in the rear view mirror for us. Continue reading