I get so many emails now I can’t barely keep up. I try and answer all of them. But I also get some common questions that I answer privately that might be of interest to my readers here. Plus, I pay attention to the search engine terms that lead people to my blog every week, which often are questions themselves. So here are very short answers to some random infidelity questions. Continue reading
I’ve had this question several times by email — “What should I do? My best friend is having an affair. Should I tell his/her spouse?” Or maybe your sister or brother. Or sister-in-law. Etc. Someone you’re very close to. I’ve also seen this question in variations in the search engine requests that lead people to my blog. It’s a tough one. I DO think it’s situational to some extent — there is no one answer — but I think I’d still like to weigh in on it.
Another in a series of my interviews with cheaters, both current and former. This is an “Other Woman”, and a married one. Whose affair was discovered and is over. I think you’ll find her story compelling. This was a fairly brief, non-physical, but very intense affair. You can see how quickly feelings can escalate even when no physical contact at all is involved. And you will see what a huge mental price she has paid for her emotional dalliance. She now has to live with the guilt and because her Affair Partner’s wife knows, but has not (yet) ratted her out, she lives with the fear that at some point it will all be disclosed to her husband. Every time the phone rings, she probably jumps. Or worries whenever her husband approaches her without a smile on his face. This is the price she has paid. The “Sword of Damacles” will hang over her head for years.
She writes in a very from the heart sort of way. Raw and real. She pulls no punches. She does not justify her actions in any way. It’s worth a read. Judge if you must, but if you must, please do it silently. She’s put herself out there hopefully to help others avoid affairs.
Apparently, a woman at an LA Fitness in Richmond, VA was told to “cover up” her body because her physique was “too intimidating” to other women in the gym and they have a “no judgment” policy there (to be fit is to “judge”??). It’s absurd on the face of it. Continue reading
A few excerpts from correspondence I’ve received, including from a “hater”, and my answers to them that may be of interest to some of you. It has all been altered in such a way as to keep them anonymous.
Wow. Simply wow. I would never have guessed that this blog would take off like this. It’s now averaging 3,200 hits per day. 500,000 hits? It says something about the topic. A lot of people have a lot of questions, a lot of anger and hurt, and are seeking help. Information. Hope. From anywhere.
To my readers, even those that refuse to accept my message of understanding, hope, forgiveness and reconciliation, I say – thank you.
This is sort of Part II concerning single people having affairs with married people and why. Recently, I wrote about why single women have affairs with married men. So today it’s the more rare circumstance — those few single men who have affairs with married women. And how the single male’s motivations and approach tends to be different than the single woman who is someone’s affair partner. Continue reading
I won’t take credit for this. It’s a reprint from something I saw on ehow.com from author Dawn Sutton. I found it doing research for someone based on their emailed question. While it’s hard to generalize about affairs and the people in them (it varies so much!!), I think what was written here sounded “right” to me. And answers that question, “Why would some smart, attractive, single woman get involved with a married guy?” I think a lot of Betrayeds have that question. Continue reading